Rolfing 2

Session 5 

Feb 28/15

I flew back yesterday morning from Brunei. My neck and shoulders were so stiff. I was glad that I had my session 5 scheduled for this morning.

The last sessions focused on the outer edge of the body and today was about the inner core, i.e. the tummy and neck. It was the most painful session to date for me. My core muscles were so tight. My rolfer began on loosening the muscles “cradling” the tummy, i.e. from edges of the rib cage and the front pelvic bone and then the muscles on each side of the centre (above the belly button). The after effects were gorgeous, my tummy was looser and I can breathe freely.

At one point when my rolfer said,”let go of the those that are no longer serving you,” and immediately the stiff area that he was working on just melted away. I gathered that a lot of times, I involved muscles that are not needed for doing certain things. The good example is my shoulders. This afternoon while I was on my bike, I caught my shoulders bunching up while riding.I relaxed and dropped them and I could still stay on the bike.

While I was on the table, I thought of ¬†behaviours that I have that absolutely do not serve me or support a positive daily living. For example : making up stories why people do things (to me) the way they do. What a waste of time and energy. I am not a psychic. How could I possibly know what is going on in other people’s mind! Another good one is convincing others are wrong. Why bother? Why can both sides be equally right? When I was home with my family over the Chinese New Year Holidays, I had seen tears and anger surfaced out of screaming matches because both parties needed to be right. I finally said,”You are right and you are also right. Let’s move on.” That broke the tension immediately. I see that the need to be right does not lead me to happiness.

At the end of the session, my homework is about learning to walk involving the pelvis. It brings a lot of fluidity to the walking motion. The spine undulates slightly as well. “oiling” this engine well means that I will have much “fluid” body in my old age!



Get set, GO Feb 03/2013

When I first started to examine my happiness, I realized my happiness was all linked to past event. I could easy think of times in the past that I felt happy such as the day I got married; the two years that I backpacked around the world etc. my happiness is never about NOW!

So what does happiness feel like? I don’t know. I am not even sure one can describe the feeling. I think happiness could be a state of mind. This state of mind is an end product of a set of many conditions. And everyone has their own set. In other words, what make me happy may not make you happy.

My first step was to find out what don’t I need or what not needs to happen for me to be in touch with happiness. The first thing that jump out of me was WORRY. Yes, I would feel happy if I do not worry. It may not be possible not to have any worries at all as long as I am still alive but I am not totally discounting that possibility. I started asking myself, “Am I worrying now?” If I did not feel that I was worrying, I would say to myself,” I am happy NOW“. For that moment, I was happy because nothing was bothering me. I didn’t care about the next minute. I was more focus on my state of being at the moment. As I am typing out this blog, I feel that I am not worry about anything at all. So I am happy now.

After about 2 weeks, it became quite habitual. I would check in quite periodically throughout the day at my worry/happiness meter. By naming those worry free moments with “I am happy now”, I realized that a) I was actually making a mark or a gauge of my sense or feeling of happiness; and b) I was declaring that I was still on track. At this point, my happiness is a result of calmness. I understand this is only one layer and there will be more as I discover more in the future. I was also surprised that I was worry free 90% of the whole last 2 week. So I could say that I was 90% happy for that period. In that, I could say that “I am quite happy most of the time”.

So, what will I do or what will happen if something huge happens that pushes me completely off the center? How can I remain happy in bad times? I don’t know. I will deal with that when the time comes. For now, at this moment, I am very happy.