A Learning from Easter Sunday

Easter Sunday DHUC

I am a buddhist who loves (Christian) sacred music. And I am a member of the  chancel choir of the Dunbar Heights United Church in Vancouver.

We all know that Good Friday – Easter Sunday is about the crucifixion and resurrection of Christ. This Ester I was able to draw learnings from it for better living. It makes me think about my behaviours, doings, ways of thinking that do not support in making this world a better place. I now see crucifixion as a symbol to put an end to all these useless deeds. Resurrection is about bringing forth the compassion and unconditional love to all within me. Wait a minute! Unconditional love. What does that mean? And how am I to love unconditionally? Have I loved unconditionally?

Let’s start to peel the onion, a layer at a time.

Layer 1: So I learned Jesus associated with everyone and anyone. He dined with the rich and poor, the good and the bad, the young and the old, those with health and those with illness. I am sure he dined with members of GBLT of his days. He welcome anyone that came to him.

Layer 2: For him to be able to be with all probably means that he had absolutely no judgement of those that came to him. I bet he had the ability to see the flame of good in everyone (good or evil). In other words, he was able to hold everyone big and able.

Layer 3 : And finally he forgave all those that had trespasses against him. And I also think most likely he was able to love for those who condemned him and nailed him to death.

O my God…. This is getting bigger and bigger and YET, it appears very simple. Love and forgive all! DAUNTING.

I think my first step could be working on forgiving all those that I feel had done me wrong(big or small). I think for now, that could be a precursor to unconditional love? To make this powerfully sticky (like the dog poo you stepped on or the chewing gum you sat on), I need to look that the values behind forgiveness.

I think forgiveness will lead to less negative mind chatting>letting go of grudges>less anger>less judgement>peace> freedom> lightness>happiness>openness> inclusive of all> ……..  It is looking like there is a lot of good values in letting go of grudges!

I will work on forgiving small stuff first. One baby step at a time.

Suggestions and tips welcome.



Rolfing 2

Session 5 

Feb 28/15

I flew back yesterday morning from Brunei. My neck and shoulders were so stiff. I was glad that I had my session 5 scheduled for this morning.

The last sessions focused on the outer edge of the body and today was about the inner core, i.e. the tummy and neck. It was the most painful session to date for me. My core muscles were so tight. My rolfer began on loosening the muscles “cradling” the tummy, i.e. from edges of the rib cage and the front pelvic bone and then the muscles on each side of the centre (above the belly button). The after effects were gorgeous, my tummy was looser and I can breathe freely.

At one point when my rolfer said,”let go of the those that are no longer serving you,” and immediately the stiff area that he was working on just melted away. I gathered that a lot of times, I involved muscles that are not needed for doing certain things. The good example is my shoulders. This afternoon while I was on my bike, I caught my shoulders bunching up while riding.I relaxed and dropped them and I could still stay on the bike.

While I was on the table, I thought of  behaviours that I have that absolutely do not serve me or support a positive daily living. For example : making up stories why people do things (to me) the way they do. What a waste of time and energy. I am not a psychic. How could I possibly know what is going on in other people’s mind! Another good one is convincing others are wrong. Why bother? Why can both sides be equally right? When I was home with my family over the Chinese New Year Holidays, I had seen tears and anger surfaced out of screaming matches because both parties needed to be right. I finally said,”You are right and you are also right. Let’s move on.” That broke the tension immediately. I see that the need to be right does not lead me to happiness.

At the end of the session, my homework is about learning to walk involving the pelvis. It brings a lot of fluidity to the walking motion. The spine undulates slightly as well. “oiling” this engine well means that I will have much “fluid” body in my old age!